The conversation you start may take an unexpected turn. The person you are talking to may not want to continue the conversation. Being prepared for positive and negative reactions will help you to feel more comfortable during the conversation.
What should I do if they don’t want to talk to me?
Your loved one may not be ready to talk about their experience yet. It is their personal choice whether to talk about suicide or not. Don’t put pressure on them.
- Tell them that you are always there if they need support or help.
- Spend time with your loved one. Sometimes just being there is enough.
- Repeat your question after a while. It may be that it was simply not the right time for a conversation.
- Mention that there are other people besides you with whom they might feel more comfortable to talk (e.g., another loved one, an emotional support counselor, a family doctor, or a mental health professional).
What to do if the person does not want to see a specialist?
It may take time for your loved one to be ready to see a specialist. It is possible that they will never want to. The most important thing is to help them understand that help for suicidal thoughts is just as important as help for other health problems (such as serious illness, broken bones, etc.).
- Tell your loved one in your own words: “No matter how much pain you are experiencing right now, you are not alone. There are many people who can help you. Timely and appropriate help can support you to overcome the difficulties and pain you are experiencing.”
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Share that there are various ways to get help: meeting in person, talking on the phone or via video call, chatting online, or helping yourself.
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Inform them that professional help is available and advise them where to find it if necessary (Link here: https://tuesi.lt/pagalbos-teikejai/).
- Do not set conditions and do not say that you will help only if they seek professional help.
Help your loved one to fill out a safety plan or create a safety box
Using our instructions, you can help your loved one to fill out a safety plan or create a safety box.